Mind your business, Lekki is not for you yet’ – Ali Baba

These words rang in my head since I came upon them.
Played them back in my head in different ways.

1. Don’t count your chicks before they are hatched.
2. When you get to that bridge, cross it.
3. You must crawl before you walk.
4. A child learning to walk doesn’t ask how much caskets cost.
5. To each it’s kind.
6. Cut your coat according to your cloth.
7. Everything has its season…

       Now let me put this together.
You can not ask why the questions in Senior secondary school examination so hard, because they are not meant for a Junior secondary school student. Just as you can not be an entry level banker and you are asking why you don’t earn the same salary as the GMs or EDs or MD.

If you decide to go to the UK by air and buy an economy ticket, you can not be complaining of how the business class and first class tickets are too expensive. That also explains the differences in the cost of a Rolls Royce and Kia Rio. They are for different people.When the Rio people begin to complain about the cost of the Rolls Royce, then it’s a case of misplaced vent and total waste of energy. Or the Rolls Royce people asking why there is a Tokunbo car for 600k. Is it your Tokunbo?

The reason you will continue to be angry at people who can afford something you can’t afford is because you don’t mind your business. There is a 2bedroom house for 800k in Ikeja that you can afford, but you are complaining of the 3.5m 2BRm in Lekki. How E take concern you?

Lagbaja bought his land 160m, built it up with 65m. You know that but question why the rent is 3.5m. Your ikeja house+land was finished with 40m. Simply put, the Lekki place is not for you yet. As aspiration yes.

Same thing applies to a lady who is used to certain lifestyles. She flies business class as minimum. You are now calling her high maintenance. Or she doesn’t like to eat at GHANA HIGH.

Can you hang your shirt where your hand can reach, or just accept the realities?

A wrist watch is 2m, he can afford it, he buys it. It’s too expensive for you. Fine. Don’t beef. Buy a Casio, & tick off! Well as long as you are not paying for the expensive lifestyle, it’s ok. If tickets to a show is 2m, but you can afford the 20k ticket, stop beefing the guys on VVIP.

They are not for you. QED

Source::thenetng

Concentrate Your Forces

Conserve your forces and energies by keeping them concentrated at their strongest point. You gain more by finding a rich mine and mining it deeper, than by flitting from one shallow mine to another – intensity defeats extensity every time. When looking for sources of power to elevate you, find the one key patron, the fat cow who will give you milk for a long time to come.

Use the Surrender Tactic ~ Transform Weakness into Power

When you are weaker, never fight for honor’s sake; choose surrender instead. Surrender gives you time to recover, time to torment and irritate your conqueror, time to wait for his power to wane. Do not give him the satisfaction of fighting and defeating you – surrender first. By turning the other check you infuriate and unsettle him. Make surrender a tool of power.

Play a Sucker to Catch a Sucker ~ Seem Dumber than your Mark

No one likes feeling stupider than the next persons. The trick, is to make your victims feel smart – and not just smart, but smarter than you are. Once convinced of this, they will never suspect that you may have ulterior motives.

Do Not Commit to Anyone

It is the fool who always rushes to take sides. Do not commit to any side or cause but yourself. By maintaining your independence, you become the master of others – playing people against one another, making them pursue you.

Know Who You’re Dealing with ~ Do Not Offend the Wrong Person

There are many different kinds of people in the world, and you can never assume that everyone will react to your strategies in the same way. Deceive or outmaneuver some people and they will spend the rest of their lives seeking revenge. They are wolves in lambs’ clothing. Choose your victims and opponents carefully, then – never offend or deceive the wrong person.

Know who you are dealing with - Do not offend the wrong person

There are many different kinds of people in the world, and you can never assume that everyone will react to your strategies in the same way. Deceive or outmaneuver some people and they will spend the rest of their lives seeking revenge. They are wolves in lambs’ clothing. Choose your victims and opponents carefully, then – never offend or deceive the wrong person.

Do Not Build Fortresses to Protect Yourself - Isolation is dangerous

The world is dangerous and enemies are everywhere – everyone has to protect themselves. A fortress seems the safest. But isolation exposes you to more dangers than it protects you from – it cuts you off from valuable information, it makes you conspicuous and an easy target. Better to circulate among people find allies, mingle. You are shielded from your enemies by the crowd.

Drop your comment on this

You met and dated a girl when you were in the university, she was a virgin when you met her, and you both agreed not to have sex untill your wedding night. The both of you graduated but were jobless for four years. However, after many years of suffering, she later secured a job for you in one big company where you were paid close to £900,000 per month. Things were going well with the relationship and you finally proposed marriage to her, she accepted but after few seconds, tears start rolling down her cheeks. You asked her what the problem was; she said '' Am sorry love, i am no longer a virgin i gave my virginity to your boss before he accepted to employ you in his company. That was the only condition he gave me before you were employed or you remained jobless. Assuming you are this guy, what will be your reaction? And for the ladies, can you do this for love?

Keep Others in Suspended Terror ~ Cultivate an Air of Unpredictability

Humans are creatures of habit with an insatiable need to see familiarity in other people’s actions. Your predictability gives them a sense of control. Turn the tables: Be deliberately unpredictable. Behavior that seems to have no consistency or purpose will keep them off-balance, and they will wear themselves out trying to explain your moves. Taken to an extreme, this strategy can intimidate and terrorize.

Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor

Too much circulation makes the price go down: The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear. If you are already established in a group, temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more admired. You must learn when to leave. Create value through scarcity.

Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy

Knowing about your rival is critical. Use spies to gather valuable information that will keep you a step ahead. Better still: Play the spy yourself. In polite social encounters, learn to probe. Ask indirect questions to get people to reveal their weaknesses and intentions. There is no occasion that is not an opportunity for artful spying.

Crush your Enemy Totally

All great leaders since Moses have known that a feared enemy must be crushed completely. (Sometimes they have learned this the hard way.) If one ember is left alight, no matter how dimly it smolders, a fire will eventually break out. More is lost through stopping halfway than through total annihilation: The enemy will recover, and will seek revenge. Crush him, not only in body but in spirit.

Dependency; a deadly disease

Dependency is somehow in a way a disease, an adage says when you are ripe to fish and you are still given fish then you are doing a good harm to yourself, WHEN WILL YOU BE INDEPENDENT? A fool at 40 is a fool for life but now its a fool at 20, be WISE, read books on getting you prepared for the future. Thank me later

Quote for today

Its simple and short but its the truth, THE ONLY WAY BACK UP IS TO BACKUP, for every PLAN A, there is a PLAN B and PLAN C just liKe the game of chess, i wish you best of the week

When Asking for Help, Appeal to People’s Self-Interest, Never to their Mercy or Gratitude

If you need to turn to an ally for help, do not bother to remind him of your past assistance and good deeds. He will find a way to ignore you. Instead, uncover something in your request, or in your alliance with him, that will benefit him, and emphasize it out of all proportion. He will respond enthusiastically when he sees something to be gained for himself.

Use Selective Honesty and Generosity to Disarm your Victim

One sincere and honest move will cover over dozens of dishonest ones. Open-hearted gestures of honesty and generosity bring down the guard of even the most suspicious people. Once your selective honesty opens a hole in their armor, you can deceive and manipulate them at will. A timely gift – a Trojan horse – will serve the same purpose.

Learn to Keep People Dependent on You

     To maintain your independence you must always be needed and wanted. The more you are relied on, the more freedom you have. Make people depend on you for their happiness and prosperity and you have nothing to fear. Never teach them enough so that they can do without you.

Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky

You can die from someone else’s misery – emotional states are as infectious as disease. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.

Win through your Actions, Never through Argument

Any momentary triumph you think gained through argument is really a Pyrrhic victory: The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer than any momentary change of opinion. It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you through your actions, without saying a word. Demonstrate, do not explicate.